HOW TO MAKE YOUR CHILDREN SHINE

Children are born with so many varying traits, but our society only encourages the certain ones that make children compliant, obedient and good to us. What we want in our children is the major factor that determines what we encourage or discourage in them.

Being in the spotlight is a fun experience for every child. When parents focus on the talents and accomplishments of their children, it helps the children shine and boost their ego to keep on improving.

The traits of our children need to be celebrated. The gifts they possess can only be utilized and sent into the world when they feel confident about themselves, when they feel that they have gifts to share.

So, the key factor here is talent. Identifying the talents in our children will allow their spirits to be free so that they may shine and bless the world with their gifts. Honoring their voice and their passions allows them to know, without a doubt, that their sensitivity and unique contribution to the world around them is valid and crucial.

As parents, we should be familiar with the signs of giftedness in our children. You should not be entirely dependent on the schools when it comes to identification of gift in your child. Note that many teachers and school administrators may not have all the information they need to recognize gifts in your child. Your personal insights are very important.

Five Ways to Make Your Children Shine

1.     Help them develop their talents
Once you have identified the gifts in your children, give them the opportunity to show it off. Not all children will have the same impressive gifts as you are expecting, but all deserve a chance. Give them home encouragement, let the family members know and appreciate them for the good in them. Let them shine the spotlight as brightly and honestly as they all can. Their praise is priceless.

2.     Pay attention to the differences
Your children will have different talents and interests. It may take a little work to discover what talents a child may have when he doesn't express an interest in anything particular. Watch your children and see where they excel. Give them opportunities to discover what they may be interested in once given the chance. Then, as they give it a try, celebrate their success and the newfound talent, no matter what it might be.

3.     Celebrate a good school grade
When your child does well in his or her school examination or test, celebrate him or her. Academic excellence is worth shining the spotlight on that child. This will not only boost the child’s ego, it impresses on the mind of such child that education is important in having a productive life. And if otherwise, when your child fails or does not do well on an examination or test, do not crucify and condemn him or her; give the child comfort and encouragement. Then find out how you can be of help. And when you later notice a slight improvement, no matter how small, please shine the spotlight.

4.     Treat them like they are amazing
This is good technique for making your children feel loved and good, it is an amazing behavior modification tool. Whenever your child do anything in line with developing his or her gift, do not stop talking about how amazing it is and how impressed you are. When you do this, the child will want to do better next time, to impress you the more. This really helps in shining the spotlight of children. Just like the words of Johan Wolfgang - "Treat people as if they are what they ought to be and you will help them become what they are capable of becoming."  

5.     Make yourself available
On a final note, I will advise all our parents to always spend time with their children. It has been said that children spell love as T-I-M-E. I understand that we are all busy, we are always on the run fending for ourselves and the children. They need us by their sides, to guide and protect against influences and distraction. Talking of shining, we must help them ensure that it’s the bright side of them that is shining. Spending time with our children is as important as taking baths daily. Even when it feels impossible at times, just five minutes of your time can make all the difference. Think about the time wasted daily doing things that did not really matter in the grand scheme of things.

HOW YOU CAN PROMOTE EARLY LANGUAGE FOR YOUR CHILD (0-2YEAR OLD)

Language is regarded as one of the prime areas that underpin all other learning. Thus, it is very essential that you commence the support of your child’s language development from his/her earliest days. 

You must start talking to your baby from his earliest moment so that he could build his early language skills.

We need to talk and interact with babies from birth. Babies and toddlers need help to learn how to interact with other people, and children need to build this good store of knowledge in their earliest years when the brain is at its most receptive. Unfortunately, not every parents realizes this. Many parents feel silly speaking to their babies, as they couldn’t answer them. We must speak to our babies. Talking to babies helps their brains prepare for language learning.

The following activities are based on the psychology of child development that you can use to promote early language for your child under two years of age.

Face-to-Face 

         
You can help develop communication skills by using lots of fun face-to-face activities. It is important to bring your face close to a baby’s face – 20–30cms (8–12 inches) away – as this is where they see best. Another important thing is to exaggerate your facial expressions: make your smiles bigger and hold your surprised face a bit longer than you would with older children to give time for babies to take in what you are doing.

Using Rhymes 

Mom singing "Head to Toes" 

Music can lower stress and give a boost to learning. An upbeat rhyme can energize and signal play, whilst a slow tune can calm, reassure and create a reflective atmosphere.

One of these might be diaper changing, which is itself a great opportunity for face to face interaction. Singing a little rhyme you have created can be a good language learning opportunity. For example, say the child’s name and sing something like, “John, John take your diaper off; John, John take your diaper off” then “John, John put your diaper on, John, John put your diaper on”, you can do that to the tune of “Baa Baa Black Sheep” – it is a very simple idea but one that is effective. You can also invent little songs like this to develop an early form of awareness that there are words for putting socks, trousers, jumpers, dresses, coats and shoes on and off.

The Dance of Communication  

You can also try copying a child’s little playful movements such as head moving side to side and forward and back, and smiling, and the expressive hand movements and face touching. When your baby pats your cheeks, pat your face too, then pat your baby’s face gently to initiate a turn-taking game. Say in a song way, “Mary’s patting my face, patting my face”. Then pat your baby’s face gently saying, “I’m patting Mary’s face, patting Mary’s face”. Change the expression and tone of your voice to keep the baby’s interest in looking at you.

Making use of the activities suggested above will enhance your child language and communication development, alongside his cognitive and emotional growth, in a healthy way. You will observe as your child follows his interests and explores his environment in fun ways, while interacting with you through language learning activities. 

Bilingual Baby Boy

Girl Imitating Mother

UNDERSTANDING YOUR BABY’S SLEEP

Are you struggling with your baby’s sleep?

Are you worried about your baby’s night waking and not ‘sleeping through the night?

Are you one of the parents who think that their children have sleep problem?  

I ask you as an adult, do you sleep all through the night? Ironically, nobody actually sleeps through the night – child or adult. Sleep is not that simple. We don’t just go to sleep at night and wake in the morning; we move through a series of different sleep cycles and often wake in between.

Let’s look at the main two phases of sleep known as ‘Rapid Eye Movement’ (REM), or ‘Active Sleep’, and ‘Non- Rapid Eye Movement’ (NREM) or ‘Quiet Sleep’.

At the start of a sleep cycle we enter NREM, moving from a drowsy state through to a light sleep to a much deeper level where arousal based on environmental triggers is minimal. At the end of this phase we move into REM, which is a bizarre blend of deep sleep and a high level of brain activity. REM sleep plays host to vivid dreams and nightmares, whilst NREM is the host to night terrors and bed-wetting.

Non- Rapid Eye Movement Sleep

Rapid Eye Movement Sleep

 At night we move through different cycles of REM and NREM, and often wake at the end of a sleep cycle, although sometimes we may be so drowsy we don’t remember it. 

An average adult sleep cycle lasts for around 90 minutes, whereas for a 0-3years old it is around 45 minutes. This means that, on an average night, an adult has around 5 sleep cycles, whereas a 0-3years infant will have an average of 10 sleep cycles. Or better put, children have 10 chances of waking between sleep cycles at night if their needs aren’t met or something startles them.

A baby will spend between 40 and 50 per cent of their sleep in REM. For a one-year-old this figure will be around 35 per cent, and for a two-year-old, around 30 per cent. Contrast this to an adult who spends on average only 20 per cent of their sleep in REM.   Therefore having more REM sleep is beneficial to babies. Biologically speaking, it’s not a problem: its life saving! Do not force your baby to take more (deeper) sleep than he or she is biologically programmed for, there is almost always a price to pay for it.

Five steps to cope with your baby’s sleep:

1.     Reset your expectations on how long your child should sleep.  All children are different – some need more sleep, some need less. Babies and toddlers by nature are ‘poor’ sleepers; this is totally normal and certainly not an indication of any parenting failure.

 2.     Make changes in your daily routine life to cope better. Try and go to bed earlier, get some help around the house or catch up on sleep at weekends.

 3.     Children shouldn’t be put to bed too early. The average bedtime for 0–3-year-olds is around 8:30pm. This is the time scientists found works best for most toddlers. If your baby attends crèche/daycare, you must give time for the cortisol levels to fall after returning home before taking him to bed. The cortisol is the hormone that keeps us awake and active, and research shows it takes around two hours to fall. In other words, children need to be at home from crèche/nursery, winding down for at least two hours before bedtime.

4.     Remove as much light as possible from the bedroom. Electric lighting, particularly modern energy-saving light bulbs and blue/white/yellow coloured children’s night lights, inhibit melatonin – the hormone of sleep. The best option is no light source, but if you must put light, use a red bulb, which doesn’t inhibit melatonin.

5.     Be patient with your child. The state of sleeplessness won’t last forever, your child will start to sleep more as s/he gets older – and one day you will have a teenager who refuses to get out of bed before early in the morning.

THE SCIENCE OF MONTESSORI METHOD OF TEACHING

Montessori (is pronounced MON-tuh-SORE-ee) education was founded in 1907 by Dr. Maria Montessori,

the first woman in Italy to become a physician. She based her educational methods on scientific observation of children's learning processes. Guided by her discovery that children teach themselves, Dr. Montessori designed a "prepared environment" in which children could freely choose from a number of developmentally appropriate activities. Now, nearly a century after Maria Montessori's first "children's house" in Rome, Montessori education has spread all over the world, spanning ages from birth to adolescence.

Montessori style of learning is an exciting process of discovery, leading to concentration, motivation, self-discipline, and a love of learning. It represents an entirely different approach to education.

At ages 0 to 6 years, Montessori emphasizes learning through all five senses, not just through listening, watching, or reading. Children in Montessori classes learn at their own, individual pace and according to their own choice of activities. Unlike the conventional method of teaching, they are not required to sit and listen to a teacher talk to them as a group/class, but are engaged in individual or group activities of their own, with materials that have been introduced to them one-on-one by the teacher who knows what each child is ready to do. 

At above the age 6year, the children are capable to do independent research, create group presentation, dramas, art exhibits, musical productions, science projects, and so forth. There is no limit to what they can create in this kind of intelligently guided freedom. In a Montessori class, there are no text books guided daily teaching routine. There is great respect for the choices of the children, but they easily keep up with and surpass what they would be doing in a more traditional setting. There is no wasted time and children enjoy their work and study, much of the learning comes from sharing and inspiring each other instead of competing with each other.

Montessori education protects the "best" in each child through respect of choice and concentration.

The most important discovery that Dr. Montessori has contributed to the field of child development and education is the fostering of the best in each child. She discovered that in an environment where children are allowed to choose their work and to concentrate for as long as needed on that task, that they come out of this period of concentration refreshed and full of good will toward others. The teachers are trained on how to link the child to the environment who is the real teacher. They know that the children natural goodness and compassion are inborn.

There are no papers turned back with red marks and corrections. Instead the child's effort and work is respected as it is. The teacher, through extensive observation and record-keeping, plans individual projects to enable each child to learn what he needs in order to improve.

Montessori classes grouped children in mixed ages and abilities in three to six year span (0-3, 3-6, and so on), forming communities in which the older children spontaneously share their knowledge with the younger ones. There is constant interaction, problem solving, child to child teaching, and socialization. Children are challenged according to their ability and never bored. 

The learning environment is arranged according to subject area, and children are always free to move around the room instead of staying at desks. There is no limit to how long a child can work with a piece of material. At any one time in a day all subjects -- math, language, science, history, geography, art, music, etc., will be being studied, at all levels.

Ages and stages are different from child to child, each person is unique. The role of Montessori eductaion is to prepare the environment, study the child, give clear lessons, step back and support exploration and concentration, and then to observe the miracle of concentration on self-chosen activities and the resulting happiness and compassion toward others.

Montessori is a revolutionary method of observing and supporting the natural development of children. Montessori educational practice helps children develop creativity, problem solving, critical thinking and time-management skills, and prepares them to contribute to society and to become fulfilled persons.